A man wakes up from his sleep to loud disturbing noise. As soon as he opened his eyes he was overwhelmed with a shock. He is unable to make sense of what he is perceiving with his senses. There had been a 180-degree shift but he could not quite figure out from where did this shift even happened.
He soon realized that he is actually inside a cage. …
“Do something!” say the self-help gurus. Sounds cool, but there is a problem, especially when you are doing it for all the wrong reasons. You do something like exercise or whatever it is you do, out of fear of what may come for not doing something. You do these things out of fear of being shamed or guilt-tripped.
You do not do something today to get over yesterday’s regret. That is childish thinking; I will do something to cover up something bad, after all, I am entitled to skip my emotional pains. I cannot afford to bear a bad mood…
Pessimist enters the therapist’s room
“Oh God, here he is again,” the therapist said in his mind while smiling at the pessimist.
Therapist: How are you today?
The wall clock, the therapist, and the entire room froze for some moments as if eagerly waiting to hear positive news from the pessimist’s mouth.
Pessimist: Not good really. Is that okay?
Therapist: Yes, of course, it is good to feel not so good sometimes.
Pessimist: So does that mean I am feeling good?
The wall clock, the therapist, and the entire room went back to their normal business as being disappointed to…
not ignoring the difficult stuff
— those difficult thought-feelings —
not blocking the awareness of them
holding them in one’s inner-awareness
also confronting the robotic tendency
— tendency to self-feed the pain or trigger —
not giving away the responsibility
to the robotic thoughts and tensing up process
but with awareness seeing their “unproductiveness”
and exercising the difficult conscious will over robot-ism
not the unconscious will and its mental tricks
which is inner-laziness and an excuse to remain in robotic mode
— to feel better while being asleep —
not a “give me the thing to do” stuff
but a spontaneous exercise of conscious will or intelligence
Being grateful is great, of course, it’s an appreciation for the moment as it is; for being alive here and now, and to remember it. But like mindfulness, gratefulness had become the new cheap trick to feel “high”. It has become one of the new age self-help placeboes for bullshiting.
Gratefulness or feeling of being grateful is not a robotic thing that one does regularly to fool himself that he is getting it all under control — c’mon! …
Positive thoughts about oneself put one to sleep while negative thoughts can act as the force required for one to wake up from sleep. It is that simple. It is negative thinking that shows one that all is not well and going back to further sleep is not the solution. Even constantly thinking “all is well” and patting on their chest as shown in a famous Bollywood movie (3 Idiots) is only really proving that “all is not well” though they are trying hard to convince themselves otherwise via the classic “righteous self lying” or “self-calming” method.
Thinking is using…
Suspend your self-protective thoughts for an hour. Sit there in a chair and exercise your “free-will” by ordering, “Okay I am gonna just sit here, no more self-protective thoughts required for this hour.’ And if you cannot do so, maybe consider the possibility that the self-protection program is using you for its own purpose and not you using it. That means the “free-will” we talk about in the asleep state is totally fake. Get real.
Also, this got nothing to do with focusing hard on a point or doing mantra repetition to prevent thoughts from arising. Such kind of effort…